How to create the RIGHT mindset for YOU

Mindset Matters Issue #15

Your mindset changes (or doesn’t change) your life.

The more you learn about mindset, the more you know it is the only thing you need to live your best life, to be your best self.

Building on my earlier posts about mindset and why the right mindset is essential for you; 

Today I will share with you 5 steps (and a bonus step!) you can take, to get in the right mindset for you.

STEP 1: Understand that a change is needed in your life

Are you happy with the job you are currently at?

Do you feel fulfilled at the end of the day?

Are you having thoughts in your mind about a certain place you

want to be, at a certain time, in a certain way- but these are all the

‘One day i will..’ thoughts?

Are you constantly in the ‘waiting’ mode mentally?

Waiting for the right time, waiting to save enough money, waiting

to lose enough weight?

If the above is something you resonate with, let me tell you- these

are all signs that you WANT a change in your life, you NEED a

change in your life.

Because the more you continue in the ‘waiting’ mode, the more

frustrated you will get,

Not knowing the reason, just hoping you will feel better on your own.

I felt this way for the longest time, until I could not wait anymore.

I had to find another way to change things since they were not changing on their own so far.

What is the other way? I started to think.

And the voice in my head gave me my answer: Everything

happens when you move, when you think, when you do

something about what YOU want.

Maybe I knew this but never accepted or gave serious thought to

it, until I did.

Everything changed for me after this realization.

Think of it like some really delicious food you crave to eat. Can

you eat it just by wishing and imagining it in your head, over and over again?

Right.

Same goes for your life. Whatever you want, you have to take

action for it, go for it. Find it.

So this is step 1, understanding first of all that you want and need

a change in your life.

STEP 2: Take complete ownership of your life

I am responsible for my life, I have to take care of my mind, body and soul.

Repeat this to yourself everyday, Speaking to yourself is a

powerful tool to remain mindful of your thoughts.

Let go of the idea that someone is going to save you,

and tell you exactly how to feel better. They can't.

The truth is no one really knows your feelings, your journey, Your reasons.

Your life has been about you.

So how can someone tell you how to make YOUR life better?

When the only person who can truly know your struggle is YOU?

I would often think about the circumstances, the money problems,

the lack of experience which I will never be able to fulfill and

realized I cannot do anything about that.

What I can do is take charge and work on what i CAN. and I did.

Take control of your life.

Take ownership of your life.

For sure you can learn smartly by observing others. But what

worked for them might work/not work for you because your

journey is different

So adapt smartly, experiment, stay curious and find your way to

what you want.

STEP 3: Start with what you have, where you are

There is a famous quote which says ‘’ if we are waiting for the

right time, we might be waiting for the rest of our lives’’

This is exactly what I am talking about.

Time, things, circumstances, people, events- will never be ideal,

you have to start on your journey regardless of these things!

You don’t need fancy things to make a change,

You don’t need some long lectures or extensive training to start

something you desire, you can always start small, use the

resources you have easily available right now.

For the longest time I did not take any action on my love for

writing and specific writing about mindset.

I always thought I am not good enough YET, I don’t have the

experience YET. I don’t have the resources YET.

My mindset shifted while witnessing the covid era in 2020.

When the world was closed and we were living in bubbles of our own

homes.

I remember reading about work from home/ remote working

concept and all the different online businesses that started during this time

as people adapted to the situation they were in.

They were trying something new, something fit for the current scenario in the world.

The Internet was the new marketplace.

The audience reach is unimaginable in the online world compared

to physical businesses.

This time completely changed my mind about what I really NEED

to change my life.

It made me see I can absolutely start on what I want today. I only

needed to use my mind, make the most of what is available to me

easily RIGHT NOW.

Resources like the internet (google search anything!) you tube,

free learning websites to learn ANY and ALL new skills I want..

everything  available at the click of a button!

The options are so many it can be overwhelming.

So my advice is, to focus on ONE thing only..one thing that you can do today to start your journey.

Whatever feels right, action today.

It can be 10 min, 20 min a day to begin with.

Do it.

This is the only way.

As long as you start TODAY and keep working on it every single

day and remaining patient towards what you want, you are doing good!

STEP 4: Understand that the only time you have or the only time you will get to reach that extraordinary life is NOW

Time is the only currency that matters, It is absolutely true like 

the sun rising every day.

No matter what, the time is passing everyday, Time is not waiting for us,

We have to catch up with time, we only have a set amount of time

everyday, So there is no point in crying about it

No point in thinking you will get some extra time,

It never happens,

You never start because you think you will start when you have time,

You will never have time!

You have to make the time!

Make the time to do one small thing today

One small step today is better than no step at all.

Once you slowly start on something,

you will find yourself MAKING TIME for it!

Because it matters to you,

So just forget the ‘one day i will…’ idea,

the one day never comes,

It is only today that we CAN control,

That we can be sure of, So make the most of TODAY.

BONUS POINT : Nothing is promised and anything is possible

This is a very liberating and a very scary thought at the same time.

We should often think of it and try to remember it.

It makes me think of what Nora Roberts said

‘’If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step

forward, you're always in the same place.”

Nothing in life is promised, so please do not take anything for granted

Do not think you have tomorrow Or day after Or next month

To do something you want to do,

Someone you want to speak to,

Or go somewhere you wish to go.

The only thing we can be sure about is TODAY,

Take action today,

Take the first step today,

Because nothing is promised!

The second part of this thought is nice, anything is possible,

So we have to remain determined, focused, working on what we want,

Because through consistency, small steps,

ANYTHING is possible And this is our biggest win.

STEP 5: Trust

Trust. Faith. Believe.

Have trust in your efforts. Trust in the timing, in the situation you are in.

Trust that things will work out for you

Trust that every situation is making you better, stronger.

Trust that you CAN and you WILL

Trust that the only thing holding you back is your OWN MIND.

Trust you HAVE everything you need RIGHT NOW.

Let your feeling of TRUST be bigger than your feeling of FEAR

AND DOUBT.

From my experience I can tell you, you need to trust.

Once you trust, you let go.

You focus on what you can, rather than on what you cannot.

This trust brings peace and patience in your heart.

It helps you sleep better at night.

So hold tight to the trust!

You are winning!!

Hope this helps you start your journey- from you, to you and for YOU!

If you have any questions, thoughts, let me know in the comments below.

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